My Sick Grandpa's Own Son Won't Visit?
ok.. so my grandpa is really sick and has been for years now.. he has COPD(Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease) he suffers from Chronic Bronchitis, Chronic Asthma, and Chronic Emphysema.. He also has Congestive Heart Failure.. And all kinds of other illnesses.. In the past year he has gotten weaker and weaker.. He takes like 15 different medicine 3 times a day.. Some of what he takes includes Morphine.. He takes a total of 60 Ml a day to ease the pain.. Now my Uncle has always been stubborn and what not.. He would borrow money from my grandparents and not even bother to pay them back.. So all in all my grandparents have always went out of their way to help him out, but when they need him he don't even bother to acknowledge it.. My grandpa is always crying because he wants to see my uncle and his 3 grandkids.. There have been a few scares where we thought he was going to die and we would call my Uncle and let him know and tell him that he should come down to see him.. He always says "OK, I'll see if i can get down there" and then he makes up some excuse about his car not working.. So we tell him that we can make arrangements to come get him.. (oh yeah he lives like 50 mins away from my grandpa) but he always says "No, it's ok I'm going to fix the car and head that way" But he never shows! Recently my sister had my nephews first birthday party and my other aunt from where he lives brought her kids down for the weekend and stayed in a hotel so they could make it to the party.. And that same Uncle is the one who brought them down to the hotel.. But he didn't even bother to stop and see my grandpa.. My grandpa later found out that he brought them and was really upset and crying.. And he got depressed and just layed around all day.. Should we just say f*** my uncle and let him do his own stuff and not even call him anymore and not even notify him when the funeral comes or should we keep pushing him to come see him? I can honestly tell you i hate my uncle and i want nothing to do with him.. Why can't he put his differences aside for 20 minutes so he can see his dying father? Once hes gone hes not coming back..
Answer by Ravinder
It seems your family have some differences. Ring your Uncle, and try to get them two to talk, if your uncle is still not interested then forget about him. He is obviously not interested, and one day when the time comes, he will regret it. Just be there for your grandpa as much as you can.
hope he gets better. good luck.
Answer by Precious Gem
Some people just don't want to face people who are dying. They
can't handle it. I would suggest you have a talk with your uncle and
ask point blank why he won't come see his dad. There could be reasons you are not aware of. If he doesn't want to talk then leave it
alone. There is nothing else you can do and your uncle will have to
deal with any guilt.
Answer by Lili
It's not up to you to "fix" this situation. The uncle is an adult, and he has made his attitude clear. Only he can decide whether he wants to see his father; you are not responsible for changing his mind or convincing him of anything.
The best you can do is be as kind and caring to your grandfather as possible. Leave the uncle alone, because you are wasting your time.
Answer by Patty
Sooner or later if he doesn't go he will regret I was only 14 when my grandpa passes away I was always at the hospital but I never went to see him thinkin he will go home by the time I knew he was gone I do regret not seeing him but he will regret not seeing his dad
it's hard to see when your parents have passed maybe he just thinks he'll het better but if not just go and pick him up if not him then the grandkids that way your grandpa will atleast see them
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