I'm starting to feel bad for my mom, how would you feel if your daughter did this?
Hi, I'm 13. I just wanted to ask for a little advice, I'm really down. I'm moving to Florida to live with my aunt and uncle next week. This was my decision, my aunt offered, she talked it over with my mom, and I chose to go. I currently live in New York City with my mom. Just my mom. My older sister left for college last year, and now I'm leaving. I feel really guilty. She says she'll miss me. And I'm going to miss her, too.
I'm not going to see my mom 'til next summer. I know it's immature to cry when you leave your mom, but I can't help it, I love her to bits. I'm already registered for a school in Florida, yes I'm starting a few weeks late, but now I'm having second thoughts. I feel bad leaving my mom, she has a long term boyfriend, and he's a great guy. I just can't help feeling sorry for my mom. She's done so much for me, she's an amazing woman.
I wanted to move because I'm tired of living so bland. I went to a small Catholic school with one class per grade. I'd be going to 8th now. You stay in one class all day with the same twenty kids and same teacher. It gets tiring. But now, I'm getting nervous. My new middle school has over 500 kids per grade. And we switch classes for each subject, I've never done that before. I'm scared of making new friends and forgetting about the ones I've known my whole life.
I'm also moving for other reasons. The neighborhood my school is in isn't getting any better, and my sister thinks it'd be best for me to experience something new. I trust her judgment. I also have really bad asthma, it might help a little to get out of this city environment.
Now that I'm having second thoughts, I can't get this bad feeling off my chest. I feel like my mom thinks I don't love her, or I'm trading her in. I feel like crap and I can't help but cry. I want to get a little insight on how my mom feels. How would you (parents) feel if this happened to you? What should I say/do to make this better? (if anything)
Thank you so much for reading.
Answer by Proud Parent
I felt bad about moving out too. But phone calls once or twice a week will make it as lot easier. Best wishes. have fun in Florida!
Answer by DianaRlz
i wouldnt know how i feel. but it's a new beginning for you and your mom. you should try new things make new friends and grow some independence. It's scary at first, but you will be living with family.
Answer by Jessica W
It is okay to cry when you leave, and it is ok to feel scared. I say you should try it and get new experiences. Worst case scenario you could always come back right?
Answer by Kat
Well, I am a mother to two small children ages 6 and 13 months. I could not even fathom the idea of my babies wanting to leave me. From what I've read, it seems as though you have legitimate reasons for wanting to leave. I would suggest you telling your mother what you just told the internet. You seemed real heartfelt and sincerely hurt about having to leave her. If you can't tell her face to face, then write a letter explaining your reasoning behind wanting to leave. Stress that it has nothing to do with her or how she's raising you. Let her know that you will love her and perhaps even promise to call everyday or write an e-mail everyday. That is the best advice that I can give, sweetheart.
Do what you feel is best for you.
Hope that helped! =]
Answer by La Ballerina
You are moving for the right things. Its only normal that both of you will miss each other. If you are not sure whether your mum knows you love her than tell her again and share with her what you have shared with us. Don't feel guilty, just see how you go in the new place. You can always come back it isn't the be all end all. Just another journey on the road called life.
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